By: Kimberly Babin
Love yourself. What does it really mean?
We all know we are supposed to love ourselves if we want to become our best selves, but just like true love with another person, it is hard to know exactly what it feels like and what it means until you actually experience it.
There are often moments in true love relationships where someone does something so wonderful that it is an undeniable confirmation. They take an action that leaves us saying, “Wow, they really do love me!” or we have a though or take an action and think “Wow, I really must love them.” When you begin to start loving yourself, you will have the same kind of reactions.
Love has a lot to do with choices. When we love another or ourselves, our choices and actions are in alignment with that love and reflect that love. Maybe your choice was to give up a bad habit, or maybe you stuck with your work out, or you said no to something so you could spend time with yourself and read your favorite book. Maybe you have stopped making choices that hurt you like being around certain people, or working somewhere that made you miserable. Once you start loving yourself all of your choices will reflect it.
If you have lived not truly loving yourself, and shift into really caring about your needs, wants, opinions, and goals, you can see the difference between your past “bad” or loveless relationship and rejoice in what it feels like to be in a good one.
Loving yourself is very similar to being in a healthy, happy relationship with someone else.
You start to see the signs of love and feel it.
There is a peace and comfort, a knowing that they are there for you.
A knowing that you will feel at home in their presence.
A knowing that something about them makes your heart happy.
You feel compelled to take caring action.
You feel compelled to take action that expresses your love.
You have a sense of peace because when outside forces threaten to hurt you have someone to make you feel better, to protect your heart, to be your safe place.
There is a connection, you know their likes, what they need to feel loved, and you strive to give that to them.
When you make a mistake, you know they will be forgiving, lift you up, and help you learn from it and move on.
They will acknowledge all the good things about you.
They will challenge you to become a better person, and their love will help you to grow.
You might dress extra nice for them, take better care of yourself, give up a bad habit, try something new, all because that love has pushed you to be more of all of the good things you already are.
How many of us have this kind of relationship with ourselves?
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